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BDSM:
* Bondage - Tying up/Restraining your partner.
* Dominating/Discipline - Being in control/Using a specific sexual act as a form of ‘punishment.’
* Submissive/Sadism - Being controlled/Getting sexual pleasure from inflicting pain, suffering or humiliation on someone.
* Masochism - Getting pleasure from your own pain, suffering, or humiliation.
* Scene - The setting where it takes place.
* Play - The acts involved.
If you’ve ever been blindfolded, or handcuffed or been controlled/been in control; Congratulations! You’ve taken part in BDSM. Most people have actually because there’s such a huge spectrum of BDSM acts.
Now, since there’s such a HUGE stigma against BDSM, those who happen to like certain aspects of BDSM don’t feel comfortable sharing this with their partner, let’s make it a little less awkward!
Step 1: Talk to your partner. You could start the conversation with:
“So, what do you think about BDSM?”
“How do you feel about *insert BDSM sex act here*?”
“So.. bondage, pretty sexy huh?”
Also be mindful that someone might be COMPLETELY uncomfortable with any BDSM act, you have to respect that. It’s all about respect and understanding.
Step 2: Now that you know what your partner is willing to do/not do, start slow. BDSM is one of those things that can go very wrong very fast. Try safe words, words that can be said during a scene that lets your partner know to slow down, or stop if things get out of hand without completely ruining the scene.
Learn your limits, what turns you on, what doesn’t. Most importantly, COMMUNICATE. I cannot stress this enough, if you’re uncomfortable then SPEAK UP! This could make the difference between intense sexy time, and getting seriously hurt!
Step 3: Now that you’ve done your sexy time, we move onto probably one of the most important aspects of the whole experience: Aftercare. BDSM is intense! So it’s important that you check-in with your partner. Sometimes people get carried away in their play so it’s important to make sure you and your partner are okay.
BDSM isn’t really that scary, don’t knock it until you’ve tried it 😉

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VAGINA MYTHS:
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1. “Intact hymen = Virgin”
Wrong sir!
There is no such thing as “popping your cherry.” Your hymen is a thin stretchy membrane just inside of the vaginal opening. A common misconception is that it “breaks” the first time you have sex, when in reality it doesn’t break at all. It can tear if you’re not careful with it though, but that can be due to a number of things entirely unrelated to sex such as competitive sports or just living everyday lives. One study found that 52% of sexually active teenage women have intact hymens!
So really your hymen has nothing to say about your sex life, just treat it with care and it shouldn’t cause you any discomfort!
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2. “Vaginas need to be washed.”
Fake news!
Vaginas clean themselves! Much like a cat, your vagina needs no help in keeping itself clean. Essentially what you’re doing if you douche or use soap is stripping it of its naturally good bacteria that helps maintain its natural balance and keep harmful bacteria out. Trust fam, your vagina can take care of itself without you! ✌🏻
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3. “Pee comes out your vagina.”
That is incorrect madam!
Things that come out of your vagina:
Blood
Babies
Lubrication
Discharge
Things that DO NOT come out of your vagina:
Pee.
Your urine actually comes out of your urethra which is located just north of he vaginal opening. Two separate holes!

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Today I underwent a minor surgery known as a LLETZ or LEEP or wire loop excision. This procedure was a follow up from a recent pap smear I had, where they found abnormal cells. I was diagnosed with a CIN-2 abnormality (moderate dysplasia of cells that are often described as pre-cancerous). If untreated, these cells slowly develop into cervical cancer.
While this procedure is minor the ramifications are not, if I hadn't gone in for a pap smear I would never have known. I had no symptoms beforehand, and only was not due for my first pap smear (often given now at 25). I went fot an appointment on a whim.
Ladies! Your cervical and uterine health is so important. If you haven't and are due for a pap smear go and get one! While it seems scary or uncomfortable, I promise you it isn't. It's quick, virtually painless, and can catch abnormalities before they become cancerous.
Men! Talk to your ladies, girlfriends, sisters, cousins, mums, etc. about getting routine pap smears. It's important, and sometimes we need a little push; that first appointment can ve scary!
Below I have links to 2 videos by Dr. Lindsey Doe of Sexplanations. These are great resources and I found it super reassuring before my first test.

Pelvic exam
https://youtu.be/3vwh-YCCQvo
Post exam Q&A
https://youtu.be/nj00nsRPIKU

#sexplanations #lindseydoe #sexeducation

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Quels sont vos plans pour ce weekend ? 😉

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10 Things I Wish Sex Ed Taught Me:
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VIRGINITY

Virginity is one of those tricky things; have sex too early and you’re considered a “slut” or “easy,” but have sex later than the general public and you’re “lame” or a “prude.” But who decides what “losing your virginity” really means? Also do you even “lose” anything? Say you’re a virgin and I’m not, if we have sex does that mean Im a virgin again because I ‘took’ your virginity?
Do you realize how silly that sounds? The concept of virginity is so vague and subjective now days it really shouldn’t even be a concept at all.
Virginity was originated back as early as 1200 A.D. as a way to figure out if a woman had been honest about saving sex (penis in vagina sex) until her wedding night, usually based on the state of her hymen. Which is actually very ridiculous that we still use this today if you think about it. There are SO many sexual advances now days, can’t we just leave this little gem back in the Stone Age and come up with a better way to describe the first time we have sex?
Which is why I usually use the term “sexual debut.” That way it’s an all encompassing term for any sexual acts you may have or may not have done. And instead of making people feel weird or shitty about what they or haven’t done, why don’t we congratulate EVERY aspect?
You’ve masturbated for the first time? Congrats on your sexual debut!
You’ve had oral sex but nothing further? Congrats on your sexual debut!
You don’t LIKE penetration, but are willing to penetrate your partner with a strap on? Congrats on your sexual debut!
See how encouraging and positive that sounds?
So instead of making someone feel silly or lame or rushed to have sex because being a virgin is “lame” why not encourage them to go at their own pace with their OWN bodies?
So whether you’re 18 just experiencing your sexuality for the first time, or 48 just figuring everything out remember: your virginity is something YOU decide. You do whatever you’re comfortable with WHENEVER you’re comfortable and anyone that tells you differently can kindly go fuck themselves 😉

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🍆🍑({*})Sex-positive YouTube Channels I Love: Sexplanations with Dr. Doe
💻Channel Description: "Dr. Lindsey Doe, the host, is a doctor of human sexuality who runs a private practice in clinical sexology..."

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10 Things I Wish Sex Ed Taught Me:
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COMMUNICATION:
How to talk to your partner Before, During and After sex.
AFTER:
Sex is intense, it can leave someone feeling really good but also really vulnerable! So it’s always a good idea to check in with your partner(s) after your sexy time(s) just to make sure everything is okay.
Some things you could say:
“Did you like/not like when I _______?”
“Do you need anything from me?”
“Can I get you anything?”
“How are you feeling?”
More importantly:
“Are you okay?”
Asking simple questions like these afterwards is not only easy to do, but it shows someone you care.
Sometimes simple gestures like this makes the difference between a one night stand and getting lucky again 😉
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#bodypositive #sexed #sexplanations #healthysex #consent #safesex #sexualeducation #bodypositivity #sexuality #gender #sextoys #adamandeve #lovers #lesbiansofinstagram #instagay #LGBTQIA #condoms #dildos #sex #nonbinary #trans #transgender #10thingsiwishsexedtaughtme #10tiwsetm #sexpost #masturbation #masturbating #sexologist

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10 Things I Wish Sex Ed Taught Me:
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COMMUNICATION:
How to talk to your partner Before, During and After sex.
DURING:
First things first, ITS OKAY TO GET SPECIFIC! Be picky, tell your partner exactly what you want! It’s okay.
There’s nothing sexier then someone who knows exactly what they want and how to ask for it.
Here are some ways you can do that:
“Can we try this position..?”
“I like it this way...”
“I don’t really like this, try this..”
“I want you to....”
It’s okay to be picky with your sex life, after all it’s YOUR sex life. You’re allowed to like and dislike certain things, it’s about making sure you have a good time!
Alternatively, if you’re on the receiving end of someone telling you what they want, don’t be that person who makes them feel ashamed or embarrassed about it! Because then no one wins. Check in with them, ask them things such as:
“Do you like this?”
“Is this okay?”
“Are you okay?”
“Do you want me to keep going/stop?”
Might be a little uncomfortable and awkward at first, but once you get used to doing this, it makes things much more enjoyable, not to mention super sexy! 😉
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#bodypositive #sexed #sexplanations #healthysex #consent #safesex #sexualeducation #bodypositivity #sexuality #gender #sextoys #adamandeve #lovers #lesbiansofinstagram #instagay #LGBTQIA #condoms #dildos #sex #nonbinary #trans #transgender #10thingsiwishsexedtaughtme #10tiwsetm #sexpost #masturbation #masturbating #sexologist

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Following coffee, TCE is the only addition to your breakfast you’ll need! Just hold off on reading our #sexplanations piece on smegma until after you’ve finished your last bite.

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In this month’s #sexplanations, Stacey Jacobs tells us all about smegma and the importance of washing your junk. Link in bio. 📸: @bethbowles.tif

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10 Things I Wish Sex Ed Taught Me:
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COMMUNICATION:
How to talk to your partner Before, During and After sex.
BEFORE:
I get it’s difficult to really sit down before your...sexy time and talk to your partner about what you want to do, what you’re willing to do and what you won’t do in the bedroom (or anywhere for that matter, whatever you’re into 😉).
Sometimes it’s awkward, weird and a bit uncomfy. BUT! How are they going to know what you want unless you tell them?!
So here’s the best way I can think to show you how to go about doing just that!
I got this idea from clinical sexologist Lindsay Doe and it’s called a Want, Will, Won’t list.
Want - List of things that you want in your ideal sexual situation.
Will - List of things you’re willing to do but aren’t necessary.
Won’t - Absolute Hard No’s. Your hard limits. Things you won’t budge on.
Now that’s not to say things can’t get moved around in your list, it’s completely up to you!
See now what you can do is you make your list, and your partner makes their list and you compare. See where you’re alike and where you’re different and go from there! But most importantly just talk to your partner!
So go on! Make your list, here’s mine! 👍🏻😉 .
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#bodypositive #sexed #sexplanations #healthysex #consent #safesex #sexualeducation #bodypositivity #sexuality #gender #sextoys #adamandeve #lovers #lesbiansofinstagram #instagay #LGBTQIA #condoms #dildos #sex #nonbinary #trans #transgender #10thingsiwishsexedtaughtme #10tiwsetm #sexpost #masturbation #masturbating #sexologist

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10 Things I Wish Sex Ed Taught Me:
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MASTURBATION:
The safest sex out there and no ones talking about it?
Or if they do they say things like:
“You’ll grow hair in weird places.”
“You’ll become addicted to it!”
“You shouldn’t have to masturbate in a relationship.”
“It isn’t healthy to touch yourself!”
And none of it is true!
Masturbation is not only amazing, but it’s healthy too! It helps with:
- A better nights sleep
- Reducing stress
- Releasing sexual tension
- Relieving menstural cramps
- Improving self-esteem
It also helps you get to know your own body so you know what you do or don’t like so you can tell your partner what you like and make sex with a partner THAT much better and who doesn’t want that? It’s not gross or weird or something to be shameful about, it’s amazing and HEALTHY!
So go on, touch yourself!
It’s good for you 😉
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#bodypositive #sexed #sexplanations #healthysex #consent #safesex #sexualeducation #bodypositivity #sexuality #gender #sextoys #adamandeve #lovers #lesbiansofinstagram #instagay #LGBTQIA #condoms #dildos #sex #nonbinary #trans #transgender #10thingsiwishsexedtaughtme #10tiwsetm #sexpost #masturbation #masturbating

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10 Things I Wish Sex Ed Taught Me:
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CONSENT:
By definition: /kənˈsent/
noun
1. permission for something to happen or agreement to do something.
✖️What it’s not:
“I mean okay..”
“Maybe?”
“...”
“Can we do it later?”
“I’m not really feeling this anymore”
“Ugh fine!”
“Stop. No seriously stop!”
“It’s fine, I’m drunk.”
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✔️What it is:
A resounding enthusiastic YES from all parties involved!
It’s essential. It’s non-negotiable. It’s something that needs to be given every time no matter if you’ve been together for 10 years or 10 seconds.
If there isn’t consent and you continue, its rape. Period.
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#bodypositive #sexed #sexplanations #healthysex #consent #safesex #sexualeducation #bodypositivity #sexuality #gender #sextoys #adamandeve #lovers #lesbiansofinstagram #instagay #LGBTQIA #condoms #dildos #sex #nonbinary #trans #transgender #10thingsiwishsexedtaughtme #10tiwsetm #sexpost

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Dear High School Sex Ed Teacher,
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Teach me about sex.
Teach me what sex is, teach me about everything from oral to anal and everything in between.
Teach me about consent, what is it and more important what it isn’t.
Teach me about protection, what my options are and how I can have safe sex with my partner.
Teach me how to communicate with my partner before, during and after sex and the importance of that communication.
Teach me about my body, and how everyone’s is different but they are all beautiful and unique in their own ways and no one should feel shame or discomfort for how they look.
Teach me about STIs, and condoms (both male and female), and dentals dams and the importance of genital hygiene.
Teach me what to do in case of a pregnancy scare and how to avoid them.
Teach me about LGBTQIA+ sex.
Teach me how to have safe casual sex with someone I barely know.
Most importantly teach me SOMETHING, anything, because standing in front of a room of 13 year olds shouting “ABSTINENCE” whilst slamming your fists on the projector screen is not only terrifying but isn’t teaching anybody anything.
Sincerely,
All the students you’ve failed to educate.
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I made this for my house so that I always remember to #staycurious. Hopefully Dr. Lindsay Doe of #sexplanations doesn't mind I used her handwriting. #dftba #youtube

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Every time I look at this poster I think of Dr. Doe on Sexplanations! What an amazing woman #poster #inspiration #inspirationalquotes #sexeducation #sexblogger #stay #curious #staycurious #sexplanations #newbie #blogger #blogging

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Behind the scenes, filming Sexplanations with Dr. Doe. Check her channel out on YouTube, and watch for this upcoming video on breast health #sexplanations #breasthealth #drdoe #fakenipples #knowledgeispower

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