UMUTUZO is their way. These women were born resilient! Transcendental Meditation training #2. Altogether the group has grown to 57. #rwanda #globalfamily #restoringresiliency #transcendentalmeditation #tm #traumainformed #traumahealing #womenunited #innerpeace #holistic #entrepreneur #thriveguide #volcano #africanbusiness
... The truth flowing out of me and through me and meeting me then and now reminds of that.
The whimpered voice of "Please stop daddy" reminds me of that.
Heaved breaths. This is real. I don’t need to confirm the images to know the experience. I don’t need to have the justice to switch the words from ”Alleged“ to ”Certain“. This book I'm writing speaks my story unlike any other article I've written could and it's brutal to articulate it with such riveting detail.
It's hard because the words I speak are always careful ones. Weird because they are also raw and vivid and open. But true also because speaking about this has repercussions.
My truth has given me a voice that I don't take lightly. Which is why the only resonance I want this book's voice to carry is that everyone, everything, every truth is valid. The delicacy and the shit, hand in hand. The humanity and the chaos, known and allowed. The healing and the horrors, not forced or rushed into something deemed worthy. A dance of our own individual design, validated and affirmed by the body who feels it. Our own.
... Fuck did I wish I could have agreed with the roaring voices in my head that conditioned me into silence. ”Stop! Don’t think about it! It isn’t real! You’re crazy! You’re making it up! How could that happen?! You’re lying!“ I wish I was. I wish I was just making it up. But time after time after time, I learned how I could never make up what I felt in my skin. Sure, I could have exaggerated the actual memory. Sure, my childlike understanding could be skewed. But I could not fabricate the weight I felt on my legs. The sting I felt in my core. The tearing of my skin. The wounding internally. The chest so tight I didn’t know how I could possibly breathe again.
I couldn’t. She couldn’t. I could never distort the truth my body speaks without somehow hurting myself in the process. (Which is what I did for years)
... Then, the memories would start with a corner of an image. A swooping of movement in the side of my viewing, like a ghost. But instead of a ghost it was an insidious blur that would pull me into a state of half awake-ness. As if someone grabbed the back of my shirt, and dragged me into another space. Another time. Another universe. But only partially.
After a week would pass, and I regained some presence in ”real life,“ I would end up on a floor, laying like I am now. I would end up on a floor, because I needed to be on a floor. To feel the tangible strength, accessible cold, true foundation of present life, in order to invite myself to feel the truth I never wanted to be real. Experience the agony I couldn’t hold when it happened.
... As I laid on the ground today after a workout, I felt every piece of the floor support me. I surrendered to the partnership, the receiving, the truth. I recalled the many times I laid in that position and invited the memories of rape, incest, beating, and pain meet me there. I swam in the ocean of it all. Fully present. Aware. Alive.
Open palms, relaxed muscles in slight turn out, eyes closed. Willing. Pissed. Afraid. Grieving.
When I first began to walk through my repressed memories I did so in the home of people I had to hide my truth from. Not because they didn't want to know it, but because it wasn't safe for them to know. It wasn’t safe for me to live integrated yet. I had to live a dual life; of healing and of strained normalcy.
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These folks are on the front lines of trauma every day - probation, addiction, sexual assault, domestic violence, child abuse...it was an honor to sit down and talk the flip side: resiliency and post-traumatic growth.
We often get caught up in finding new fancy methods, when it's our roots that are essential: empathic unconditional positive regard.
And importantly but often neglected: lighting ourselves on fire. practicing what we preach and giving ourselves the same challenge to evolve a little more each day.
Excited to go deep and build genuine expertise in the full course. emcapito.com/rooted
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Yesterday's workshop with the Trauma Informed Care Network was impressive - such a diverse and dedicated group of helping professionals from probation officers to victim advocates to addiction treatment. Grateful to have the opportunity to listen and learn with those on the front lines of trauma and resiliency.
#trauma #resiliency #resiliencyrooted #socialwork #therapists #traumainformed #posttraumaticgrowth #adversity #workshop @rockstarcomeback
Saturday mornings mean team calls with these two amazing ladies @mrsstarwald and @kaseylupton!!They have the biggest hearts, lead with love SO ridiculously well, and are my partners and teammates in coaching ladies to their best health. But really, they're like family!
I thought I was starting a side business I loved, but I didn't realize how incredible the community of ladies supporting ladies could be. *
They are two of the most authentic, hard-working, and encouraging ladies I know! It's good we lime each other so much cuz we talk all the time, bounce ideas of each other, and carry each other, too!
If you've been thinking about joining one of their health and fitness accountability groups, do it!! *
These two rockstars will lock arms, run with you, and help you crush your goals!
And if our team of big-hearted spunky Mamas committed to whole-hearted health sounds like it might be your jam, let me know!
Mentoring ladies who lead with their hearts is one of my most FAVORITE things ever!
We are #thankful for having Amber Lenore on staff. She has created the new Transformational Women's Circus program, an 11-week drama therapy and circus arts class to bring the joy of circus to women who have suffered trauma. http://sancaseattle.org/social-circus/twc/ #grateful #sancacoachesareamazing #sancastaff #circus #dramatherapy #traumainformed
First heard this lesson from Communities in Schools founder Bill Millike and it’s always stuck with me. In every community, there needs to be a champion for children, that person who’s going to tackle juvenile justice reform, trauma informed care, restorative justice, and intervention and prevention for our most vulnerable children. Met a couple of those champions this past week in Fresno. Hon. Gary D. Hoff of Fresno County Superior Court and Dr. Terri Pieretti, Ed.D of Fresno Unified School District. Thank you for doing the work you do and thank you to all those champions out there!
3 million kids around the U.S. witness domestic abuse in their homes every year. Domestic violence happening around children should be reported to police, a teacher or counselor because of the long term effects it has on children and the development of their attachment style and brain. But in the meantime, there’s protective words after they hear or see an incident that can help build resilience. Things parents or caretakers can say are, “it’s not your fault,” “you’re safe now,” or “that shouldn’t have happened to you.”
We have been working with young mothers on building personal resilience starting with acknowledging their own stress responses and practicing skills to settle when it's safe enough. After two months of practice and feeling more resourced, they wanted to talk about the bigger forces affecting their lives - like being homeless, having addicted and incarcerated parents. .
Building resilience can't just be about increasing individual strength and bounce back. We are deeply affected in positive and negative ways by everything around us. Acknowledging the whole of it helps us see that many of our stress reactions are completely normal and expected for the times we live in. Stop individualizing the systemic and put the burden where it lies. .
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Happy #Caturday Cuties! We're 10 days away from the largest global day of giving! The countdown begins for #GivingTuesday where we have a great opportunity to make a big difference #TOGETHER Which, I know is going to be so pawsome because y'all are the most generous and big hearted of anyone I know and make a real impact in our community! As I'm the mascot and a therapy kitty in training for @growingplacesanctuary I'm helping Meowmy spread the word! My #1yearadoptaversary is tomorrow and this is how I'll be celebrating with my Meowmy (with an extra large dose of sweet memories, cuddles and playtime, of course )
#savethedate #werebettertogether #mentalhealthawareness #makeadifference #traumainformed #therapeuticprogram #TheGrowingPlaceSanctuary #everylittlebitcounts #support #pilotprograms #thebeautyofcommunity #GROgroups #COICommunity #theBESTcommunityonIG #animalassistedtherapy #specialneedscatsofinstagram #JazzHandsKitty #22toes #Littlepaws #tabby #tabbycatsofinstagram #catsofinstagram #cats_of_instagram #instagram #catagram
We're 10 days away from the largest global day of giving! The countdown begins for #GivingTuesday where we all have a great opportunity to make a difference #TOGETHER follows #blackfriday and #cybermonday and #comingsoon #GroGroups
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#Parenting #podcasting #podcast #parentingfromtheheart #authentic #authenticity #authentic #parenting #annaseewald #mommyblogger #love #happiness #emotions #trauma #stress #mindfulness
#Traumainformed #authenticmoments #parentingtips #parentingblog #motherhood #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodthroughinstagram #momlife #dadlife #fatherhood #stressedout #stressed #stressfree
I bought this back in July and I’m just getting around to it! @irestrichardmiller never fails to inspire me. If you want to learn about the many ways #iRest #YogaNidra is such a powerful healing tool then this book is for you. Happy to add it to my #FridayReads adventures. #YogaByAllison #meditation #reading #PTSD #PTSDAwareness #TraumaInformed
Truths 1,2 & 7 are screaming to resonate!!! This is true in any environment not just school...it's the most obvious because well school-aged kids spend more time there...all ages could learn a thing or two from this!!!
#traumainformed #traumainschools #trauma #traumasensitiveyoga #traumaforemotionalhealing #sanantonio #sanantonioyoga