Jen Varley LMHC,CASAC,EMDR-3

I’m Jen a local psychotherapist in QNS.I'm passionate about all things healing. Follow me for inspiration, mental health news and good vibes

https://mobile.nytimes.com/2017/12/20/well/family/debunking-myths-about-estrangement.html?mc=aud_dev&mcid=keywee&mccr=dommob&kwp_0=650063&kwp_4=2312186&kwp_1=973170&referer=http%3A%2F%2Fm.facebook.com

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Nerding out over here guys! 🤓 you should hop online to get this article (link in bio).Since I work with a lot of people who have really complicated relationships with family members I’m interested in what it is like for people to make a conscious choice that being connected to family is more harmful than helpful. For people with abuse histories or were manipulated as kids the idea of estrangement may be the safest thing today. Let’s see what he research says! #inteigued #attatchment #trauma #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #estranged #newyorktimes #astoria #astoriastherapist #LIC #courtsquare

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Lucky enough to have gotten outside this morning to enjoy this weather. Even indoors I’m ok because of all this vitamin D seeping in my office 🌞#windowsopen #herecomesthesun #snowtomorrowthough #vitamind #soundsofthecity #longislandcity #LIC #courtsquare #astoria #astoriastherapist

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Happy Valentines y’all 💕! ( my days of living in the south slipped out). Wishing everyone a fabulous day full of the most important kind of love there is. Unconditional SELF love 💗 #valentinesday #loveyourself #loveyourselffirst❤️ #astoria #astoriastherapist #LIC #courtsquare #easierthanitsounds #doitanyway

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Wednesday night I could feel it. I was on the verge of getting a cold and what I really hoped wouldn’t be the flu 😷. So I took what I’ve learned about boosting my immune system and coupled that with my acupuncturist/herbalist (who works as late as I do). I was able to pick up some herbs in my way home and took them at the first sign of illness. This blend helps you to “sweat” out whatever you may have overnight and guys it WORKS. I’m sure it helped that I went to my go-to immune boosters too. Elderberry is nature’s Tamiflu and is wonderful! Marshmallow root is shown to support/benefit respiratory health. I take Ester-C in place of vitamin C or OJ because it doesn’t give me heartburn. Not shown here was gargling with baking soda+warm water + pinch of sea salt. Viola! I felt 80% the next day and 💯 by day #2. If working in the corporate world taught me anything it was how to care for my immune system. Take care of yourself as we wrap up winter and try to keep it holistic when possible ✌🏻#elderberrysyrup #marshmellowroot #esterc #evergreenherbs #TCM #immunesystem #immunebooster #efftheflu #astoriastherapist #astoria #LIC #courtsquare #healthiswealth

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Spent a lovely afternoon in the company of energy healers and therapists talking about healing and the mind/body connection. There’s always something to learn from someone else and no need for competition amongst ourselves. Sharing and learning always wins 🙏#energyhealing #energywork #psychology #trauma #neurobiology #trauma #neverstoplearning #collaborate #learn #astoriastherapist #brooklyn

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I bought this book years ago in Georgetown DC visiting some college friends. I was thumbing through and noticed some quotes that matched up with some words of wisdom I received from my mentor/internship supervisor in graduate school. In our lifetime we get teachers we never expect. The ones that challenge us to the core. Scott always said do what makes your heart sing. To be honest I didn’t get the message until years later. This book is a reminder that we all become who we are in part because someone took a chance on us or took time and energy to invest in us and our potential. #happilygrateful #mentor #LIC #astoria #astoriastherapist #grattitude #quoteoftheday

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My grandparents met a woman who lost her child while 36 weeks pregnant. As a way to cope with the incredible grief that came after she decided to paint rocks with a message on the back. These rocks are to be placed across the world as a way to make sure the memory lives on. Today I placed one in Krabi, Thailand 🇹🇭. We all process grief differently but this is a beautiful way to do so. #rocksforriley #grief #memoriesliveson #astoriastherapist #astoria #LIC #courtsquare #krabi #thailand

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Taking a break from patients for some travel and a much needed reboot. Back to nature and feeling grounded. The older I get the more I realize we need to clear our energy. It’s a need not a want. We absorb that stuff especially living in NY. Bring on 2018! #travel #reboot #reset #clearingmyhead #happytherapist #LIC #astoria #astoriastherapist

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This year is coming to a close. How would you describe 2017 if you could only use one word? Mine would be transformational. Happy New Year to everyone! Here’s to 2018! 🎉🥂🍾#NYE #goodbye2017 #hello2018 #reflections #astoria #astoriastherapist #LIC#courtsquare

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I absolutely believe in and ❤️ that epigenetics is getting so much attention lately. Don’t know what it is? It’s google worthy I promise #epigenetics #genes #health #LIC #astoriastherapist #astoria

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Had a wonderful holiday over the long weekend! Excited for these books most of all 🤓. Never stop learning guys. I’ll be brushing up on Shame/vulnerability, spirituality and soul based wisdom, food/physical health and an intro into hypnosis/hypnotherapy (which may be my next adventure) #brenebrown #youaretheplacebo #joedispenza #oprah #wisdomofsundays #medicalmediumlifechangingfoods #youaretheplacebo #monstersandmagicalsticks

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I read this, laughed and said out loud "nothing has been more true". LOVE me some Ram Dass ✌🏻 #astoria #astoriastherapist #ramdass #conciousliving #family#holidays #LIC #courtsquare

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In case you didn't hear the Trump administration has banned the CDC from using 7 key words for the upcoming 2018 budget. Included are words such as fetus or transgender. Its hard to ignore the fact that women and the LGBTQ community appear to be targeted by removing these words. Stand up for science, health and inclusion of all people 👊🏻#cdc #science #inclusion #transgender #womensrights

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Ever wonder why the same challenges keep coming up over and over? My mentor in grad school used to say "what we bury stays alive " which is SO true. Eventually we have to look in the mirror. I'll be real, healing isn't easy and it certainly isn't pretty. So if you feel like you are living Groundhog Day with your demons consider making 2018 the year of repair. #healthiswealth #healyourself #repair #astoriastherapist #repeat #LIC #astoria #bringon2018 #yougotthis

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Not a day goes by where I don't reach for some of these right here ☝🏻 some are for home others for the office but I do my best to keep it holistic and natural when I can. The mint oil on the right treats heartburn and upset stomach as well as headaches and clogged sinuses, lemon for clearer skin,reduces inflammation and detoxing. The others have tons of benefits too and I encourage you to look into using natures tools to heal your life when possible ✌🏻🌱🌿🍋#essentialoils #youngliving #healing #daytodaylife #holistichealth #themoreyouknow #astoria #astoriastherapist #LIC #courtsquare

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Examining the link between Childhood Emotional Neglect and Codependency. These issues tend to pop up around the holidays as we prepare to spend time with our families. These types of experiences get wired in as a way of relating and work for awhile, until they don't anymore (usually in your mid-late 20's). Re-wiring these experiences can be done with EMDR. Replace your software #CEN #emotionalneglect #codependency #healthiswealth #emdr #rewireyourbrain #attatchmentissues #astoriastherapist #LIC #courtsquare

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Did you guys know that out of all the things I help people overcome my favorite is co-dependency. A lot of my therapist friends even are like "really, are you sure?". To which I respond uhhh YAS🙌🏻. It can be hard to find someone who wants to work with this but I love it. If you have no idea what that is click over to my website and take a look at my "Detachment and Boundaries" page. Overcoming this pattern of relating to others impacts people a lot (daily) and is way more common than people think. Learning to be alone in this process is hard AF but is one of the stages you have to go through to grow. Feel free to reach out if you think you may need help (link in bio) #coda #codependency #attatchment #attatchmenttrauma #chaosandconfusion #boundaries #healing #interpersonalrelationships #healing #astoriastherapist #astoria #LIC #courtsquare

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With the end of the year comes a lot of reflection. Today I tried something new which I really loved. I wrote down each month on an index card along with the challenges I've faced as well as personal achievements over the year. It helped to highlight growth I had forgotten about as well as challenges I've overcome and some that are ongoing. Find your ritual. #ritual #reflection #personalgrowth #endoftheyear #fullmoon #mercuryretrograde

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Not always the easiest thing to keep in mind but if this ain't the truth I don't know what is 🙌🏻#compassion #patience #courage #fear #persistence #resilience #aninconvenienttruth #growthstuff #keepgoing💪

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Repost from @leshrc ❤️! They do amazing work for NYC. The opiate epidemic in this country is very much alive. I may be living in a private practice world nowadays but my roots are in chemical dependency treatment. I've worked in several clinics and I'm proud to say all from a harm reduction modality. Narcan (which reverses the impact of an overdose long enough to get medical attention) SAVES lives people! It's not a morality issue it's a fact. If you or a loved one is addicted PLEASE get trained in Narcan administration! It's so easy to learn. #narcan #narcansaveslives #narcantraining #leshrc #astoria #astoriastherapist #harmreductionsaveslives #harmreduction #LIC #courtsquare #casac

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There are a lot of unexpected gifts that come out of our trauma. It may not always feel that way however the healing process often shifts our perspective ✌🏻#healyourmindbodyandsoul #trauma #traumainformedtherapist #thegiftisinthejourney #LIC #courtsquare #astoria #astoriastherapist

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Beautiful and bright day in the office today! ☀️🍂One more session to go before some self-care. #thursdayismyfriday #survivedanotherweek#busyseason #privatepracticechronicles#LIC #astoria #astoriastherapist #courtsquare

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Head in the clouds today! Back to enjoying my view now that my AC unit isn't in the way. #momaps1 #LIC #courtsquare #astoria #astoriastherapist #headinthrclouds #daydreaming

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The willingness to be vulnerable is SO important. It's where both the pain exists and where the magic happens. We don't get to safeguard ourselves from emotional pain, fear or anxiety. When we try we limit the possibility of also experiencing joy, the unexpected and the gifts of the unknown. Dare to be vulnerable. #vulnerability #vulnerable #enterthefear #LIC #longislandcity #astoriastherapist #astoria #courtsquare

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Therapy time! No I didn't move my office I'm in route to my own session. Since graduate school I have committed to my own personal work on myself. I can honestly say I carry no shame in this I feel like it's a part of my routine and just like working out a way to stay healthy.
I believe in the value of connecting with someone who can challenge you and help you grow. It took awhile to find someone who can help me on that journey that never really ends. I know this helps me to be a more conscious person and a better therapist.
Don't let stigma ever get in the way of what makes sense for you! ✌🏻#practicewhatyoupreach #therapy #clearingmyhead #personalgrowth #effstigma #dowhatmakesyouhappy #astoria #astoriastherapist #LIC #courtsquare

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